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Simple Always Works

Simple always works.

Follow this ten step program for guaranteed results.

If you do these 17 steps you will achieve success. 

It's all bullshit, really. 

The truth: simple always works.

It always works.

If something is not working in your life right now, you must simplify it.

Let's break this down into the categories of our life.

1. Health and building your desired physique

I used to workout for a couple months then step. See some results then quit. Rinse and repeat. Rinse and repeat. 

It obviously was not working for me because I still was a skinny tall kid. 

Then I decided to simplify it.

I decided to go to the gym 6 times a week.

I decided to eat certain foods and stop eating others. 

I knew the exact workout for each day, and made it SIMPLE. I didn't choose to reserve three machines and do a super set on each while counting down the seconds of rest. 

That's not simple. That will not work.

2. Wealth and becoming rich

I used to be broke. Barely afford gas for my car and food to eat.

I wasn't making more money and I wasn't becoming rich.

I decided to simplify it.

Now, I choose to pay myself 10% of my money using the principle in the Richest Man In Babylon.

I decided to save money for experiences such as traveling and concerts.

I decided to invest a certain percentage into my own development. The better I get the better my clients and everything I do gets. 

3. Relationships

How do I connect with this person?

How do I attract more girls?

How do I have new friendships with cool people on the same path?

What I used to do didn't work.

Then I simplified everything.

I focused on the fundamentals.

I became high status.

I learned how to have an incredible conversation.

I learned the most important thing about relationships.

Change the way you BE in life and the people will come. If you work on yourself and start living an attractive purposeful life, the right people always show up. 

Every part of our life. 

We choose to overcomplicate things.

Write down your thoughts on paper. Draw a mind map. Speak into a microphone for thirty minutes.

Simplify your life.

It always works. 

Your man,

-Daniel

23 Lessons I Learned From Being A Beach Boy

23 Lessons I Learned From Being A Beach Boy

Don’t call me a beach boy. Call me a ‘recreation concierge’. That has a better ring to it.

I applied at the ripe age of 18 to my first hotel. My manager said I had “the worst interview he ever took”, but for some reason I still got the job. I’m glad they took the chance because it changed my life completely.

The following are some of the countless lessons I learned from working in the pool and beach department for the best hotels in Miami Beach, Florida.

1. Attention to detail

Detail, detail detail.

As a beach attendant at a five star hotel, it’s the detail that makes the difference.

Every single lounge chair is placed in the same direction. Every chair aligned perfectly. Every single piece of trash picked up. Every small spec of bird shit was noticed.

Day after day I would actively walk the property seeking perfection.

Without realizing it, I was building up this external awareness muscle. Now, I’m able to walk in everywhere and not just look, but observe.

Noticing the details, what’s right and what’s wrong has become one my biggest strengths to date.

2. How to tip

Quarters and nickels to thousand dollar checks and everything in between.

I’ve been tipped in every way possible.

In regards to tipping correctly, don’t do the following:

  1. Be afraid to show the money. Some people would crinkle a dollar bill into 46 squares in order to hide to exchange of money.
  2. Don’t loudly proclaim you giving them money so their friends and everyone around will hear it.
  3. Don’t promise to tip and not keep your word.

3. Be wary of big tips

There was one particular baller that the entire service industry in South Beach had heard about.

He was known for extravagant tips and his ruthless demeanor.

Being the manager at the hotel he frequented it, I quickly became his go-to man with him writing me a $1,500 check just for refilling his water.

Having not witnessed the ‘ruthless demeanor’ aspect of his personality I quickly realized that this $1,500 check had it’s price.

When someone tips you well above the average amount, many times there are strings attached. An invisible umbilical cord that bonds both of you.

In this particular case, due to something outside of my control. He ended up threatening to sue me and almost got me fired because of his connections.

Be wary of big tips, be wary of extreme favors people give you. Don’t be surprised when they come back asking for more.

4. Befriend the chef

Hotel food is rarely something to brag about. After working in hundred degree weather, sweating and hustling hard. There are few things more enjoyable than a freshly grilled burger from the poolside restaurant.

I learned the guiding principle that veterans in the hospitality industry all know: befriend the chef.

5. How to hustle

Somedays us beach attendants needed more money than others. Maybe it was an upcoming bill or to go to some party in the evening.

Those days you came in with a certain type of energy.

The energy of the hustler.

Boom. A bigger smile. A more enthusiastic greeting.

There were many little actions that could be embellished. An extra loud grunt to give the perception that the umbrella was way heavier then expected. Maybe it was a water pitcher with lemons, oranges, limes, extra cups and extra ice. Maybe it was taking the time to learn their entire life history.

The hustle gene was born inside of me and has persisted ever since.

6. Do what you hate first

The job required tons of physical effort. Most of my team members at the time would hate closing the beach.

Moving all of the chairs back into hiding. All umbrellas back into storage. Picking up all the trash.

This was the best time for the slackers to purposefully ‘disappear’ to the bathroom or immediately start picking up the plastic tables (lightest and easiest workload).

Not me.

I quickly learned that the only way to leave out on time was to do what I hated, first.

That meant doing the most difficult and physically draining work.

Once it was done, there was always an immediate relief.

The rest was easy! Call it eat the frog, but the principle has been applied to my every single day routine with remarkable effects.

7. Add meaning to the mundane

When I was promoted to manager, I had a lot more to be responsible for.

I spent every day off reading leadership books and applying it immediately once I came back to work.

There was one action that I just couldn’t find a way to motivate and inspire my team members.

Cleaning the bird shit off the cushions.

Multiple times a day, these seagulls would commit target practice defecating all over the place.

Being the manager at this luxury hotel, our team had the privilege of cleaning this.

No-one willingly would want this part, and I tried everything. We would pick two new people every day so it was a rotation. I would join them in cleaning it. There was rewards such as going to lunch first etc, etc.

Nothing stuck until I learned how to truly inspire people.

During this time of devouring leadership books, I was reading the Steve Jobs biography (highly recommended). Steve had a habit of going on walking meetings with his team.

I decided to apply this and ended up walking all of my team members to the locker room (five minute walk) to talk about their day, what went well etc.

As I started to get closer to each individual, they would talk to me about their dreams and future career goals (no-one wants to be a beach attendant for the rest of their life).

A month into this process, the idea hit me.

I began to connect all the small ‘bullshit’ things we had to do every day to the grand picture.

Cleaning bird shit was no longer cleaning bird shit. It was building your attention to detail to help you become a better CEO.

Every small action was connected to their future vision. This changed everyone's relationship with cleaning bird shit, that even surprised the seagulls themselves.

8. Creating alliances

If someone is young and in a very high position in a company. This usually means that they had help.

I’m not saying that they don’t deserve the job, I’m saying that they actively sought out alliances to help propel them to their current status.

During my tenure as beach attendant → manager in multiple hotels I created alliances with other ambitious hard working people.

No matter how good I became at my job, without these friendships I wouldn’t have been fortunate enough to receive the opportunities I had.

9. How to separate yourself from the pack

Being a beach attendant doesn’t require talent. It required hard work and attention to detail.

Everyone could do the bare requirements for this job, so the only way to seperate myself from everyone else was two things:

  1. Consistency
  2. The ‘extra’

The majority of everyone that I worked with just did the bare minimum. I would always go a little extra, every single time.

My name became synonymous for ‘job well done’ and you could count on me for holding it down no matter what.

Managers and future directors after I got promoted loved this about me. It made THEIR job easier. They didn’t have to worry about the quality of my work.

I learned that doing more than the bare minimum and being consistent (in every part of my life) has lasting benefits.

10. Be honest

Everyone fucks up.

Everyone makes a mistake.

Sometimes that mistake get’s people fired.

I witnessed many people get fired for mistakes, but every now and then there was this rare person even if they knew that telling the truth would get them fired, would fess up.

Many times that ability to be honest actually kept them in the job, brought more honor to themselves and had the entire company respect them even more.

Being honest when it’s the hardest is so crucial. It might have some short term pain, but there is always long term gain.

11. Make it happen

One of the most valuable mindsets I learned was that of ‘make it happen’.

Just make it happen no matter what.

I would become a master technician. An expert builder.

WHATEVER was needed in order to make it happen. If a guest needed a table and we were out, I would run to another hotel and take their table and tip someone and run back.

When you have this type of mindset of making it happen no matter what. You stop looking for why you can’t do something and find ways you can.

12. Consistency is key

“Success isn’t always about greatness. It’s about consistency. Consistent hard work leads to success. Greatness will come.” — Dwayne Johnson

Many of my team members would excell one day, then take the next day off. Some would do great work for a week then have a bad week. I saw it all.

I contrasted this behavior with the most successful people in the company in realized immediately that the people that are making the most money, having the greatest impact where showing up powerfully every single day.

Consistency is key.

13. You are only as good as your weakest link

Another one of my key lessons while reading Steve Job’s biography was the idea of working with A-players.

When I first got promoted to assistant manager, a lot of team members didn’t like me (if not most) because I was determined to only work with A players.

Many people quit, but the people that stayed ended up loving it because being an A-player surrounded by A-players is a rare opportunity.

14. World vs. the American attitude

The company I worked with and numerous hotels were using the J1 Visa (hiring people from Bali/Slovakia and other countries) to come for a summer internship.

I was truly blessed to meet some of the most inspiring, hardest working people I have ever been around in my life.

These people worked tirelessly, were grateful and just a joy to be around. I realized that a lot of people that were born in America didn’t have the same work ethic and hustle as immigrants.

Rudi, Putu, Widi, Stanley, Svetlana, Simona, Odik, and me.

15. Whatever problem you are dealing with is funny a couple years from now

When I was being about to be sued by the millionaire from #3, I couldn’t think of anything else.

Many times in my career there was a huge problem and I couldn’t get my mind off of it. It consumed me and caused a lot of stress.

In hindsight I realize now that everything will pass. I am bigger than my problems and so are you.

16.Hiring friends rarely works

Hiring friends rarely works, when it does it really does.

However, if you take your career or job seriously. Hiring friends is risk.

I witnessed first hand how it ruins friendships and forces people to make extremely tough decisions.

Would you fire your best friend?

17. Perception is reality

I remember having a team member who just worked extremely hard.

This was one of the busiest days of the year and this man came in early, chose to do the hardest workout of all the tasks. Spent extra time on the opening process instead of just focusing on money. Offered to go to lunch last. You name it, but he was just the MVP by a mile.

Half way into his shift, his watch broke so he went inside the poolside restaurant (employee section) and checked his phone for half a moment to see the time. Just as he took out the phone, the GM at the time walked by and noticed it.

Perception is reality. The GM doesn’t know what actually happened. He percieved something and that is the reality for him until proven otherwise.

One of my greatest lessons was witnessing this.

18. Looks matter

Time and time again I witnessed ‘attractive’ people get promotions, and more opportunities.

Yeah. It’s true.

And we can complain about how it’s not fair yada yada yada but that won’t solve anything.

The only thing that everyone MUST do is to utilize the halo effect.

Wearing fitting clean clothes. Putting on a suit, dress shirt. Nice shoes. A fresh haircut. A trimmed and styled beard.

All of this gives you the power and opportunities that others won’t have.

19. Don’t fuck your employees

It’s so simple.

There are so many women out there. And for you women, there are more than enough men.

I saw countless managers fuck their employees and get fired, suspended or just ruin their future career growth.

It’s not worth it.

I know, especially if you are in a position of power, it’s so easy to do it. Don’t!

20. Storytelling

When I was first promoted, we would hold a 10 minute morning meeting discussing the occupancy, VIP guests etc.

I realized the power of storytelling during this time.

Instead of me telling a team member to make more sales.

I would tell someone the story of Colonel Sander and how he got rejected 1009 times before the 1010th gave him a chance to create the empire it is today.

Storytelling are immensely more persuasive than just speaking plainly.

21. How to instantly connect

As a proud introvert, it was extremely tough for a couple months.

Every single day having to greet and talk to hundreds of people. Coming home drained and dreading the fact that I would have to do it all over again tomorrow.

It took me thousands of conversations, but revealed one of my greatest gifts:

The ability to connect with anyone.

22. Be high status

While studying all the millionaires, entrepreneurs, celebrities I had first hand experience on what being high status looks like.

It’s no mistake that people in positions of power are high status.

It’s not some random error.

It’s absolutely CRUCIAL for you to study and learn to be as high status as possible so you will make more money, have better relationships and the best career opportunities.

Read here to learn 39 ways to be higher status.

23. My love of training

I thought it was my purpose to be a leader.

I was devouring every single book I could on the topic and loving that I had an opportunity to apply my knowledge the very next day.

After two years of management I realized that it wasn’t the leadership.

It wasn’t being a manager.

It wasn’t the power.

It was coaching and training people. Helping others become all they can possibly be.

It’s why I quit hospitality and now coach professional athletes, entrepreneurs and introverted men.

I would never have had that realization if it wasn’t for hospitality.

In Conclusion…

I am truly blessed to have met incredible friends, mentors and brothers for life.

I have hundreds of other lessons and stories from my days as a beach boy all the way to part of the management team of 50 people.

The intention was to inspire you to look at your past or your current job,and be grateful for all the lessons of what to do and what not to do it’s giving you.

Write a comment telling me what are some of your favorite takeaways.

-Daniel


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Don’t Be That Guy Vol. 1 (Unsolicited Advice Guy)

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It's simple.

We help someone and we immediately feel good.

We want to help others because it immediately allows us to feel needed.

"I helped Tim which obviously means I'm a good person"

We all want to see ourselves as good people. 

In reality, this is just an expression of people pleasing.

I used to be the helper. I genuinely helped and THOUGHT that my unsolicited advice was doing good.

The reality: unsolicited advice guy sucks.

Michael Neil gives two powerful examples of the helping epidemic. 

  1. It's the same thing as a four year old that 'helped' set the table but actually messed it up even worse which caused you to do more work. The four year old goes back to his room feeling great after he 'helped' even though he actually made it worse.
  2. It crushes the genius of the other person. Imagine being in the car with a friend and having the world's best GPS in your hand telling you exactly where to go. You look down at this piece of technology then your friend turns to you and starts telling you the wrong directions. The point is that we all have the right answer within us and the unsolicited advice is actually making us doubt our innate wisdom. 

Many men suffer from people pleasing and as we continue on this journey we will talk about how to eradicate this neediness completely from your system. 

Helping others, doesn't actually help others.

Being with someone, empathizing (watch this video) is the actual help. 

Handing out unsolicited advice as if you were spiderman isn't the way to go.

That guy sucks.

He actually is making it worse for everyone despite his possible noble intentions.

The Solution

Empathize.

Be with them.

Hold a non-judgmental space for them to express their feelings.

Hold back that advice at all costs and just sit with them.

Ask follow up questions with curiosity.

Don't go immediately to the positive 'well it could have been worse'.

Watch in shock at how their inner GPS immediately comes up and shows them an insight.

If and ONLY after you have held space, and have been specifically asked for help...

Then you can talk from personal experience. Tell a story. Send them love.

Don't be unsolicited advice guy.

Don't be that guy.

See you in volume two. 


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How To Be The Most Ambitious Person In The World

How To Be The Most Ambitious Person In The World

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1. Commitment

Nothing great on this earth was done without commitment. When you commit to a course of action it means you are all in. 100% of your mind, body and soul are into this.

A 100% commitment is a hand-shake with your self. I commit to doing ‘this’ with complete dedication.

Ambitious people commit to being committed.

2. Ambitious people understand that no-one is coming

Nathaniel Branden, author of the six pillars of self-esteem had this incredible quote in his office.

“No-one is coming”

Man, when I read that I put the book down and got to work immediately.

Listen up. If you think for one second that someone is coming to take care of you, you are deluding yourself.

No-one is coming. If you want something go and make it a reality.

3. They love the hard work

They don’t work in order to pay for vacation. They love the hard work. They love the hours. They love the hustle. They love the process. They honor the struggle.

Ambitious people have a fantastic relationship with work.

Exercise: write down the first five words you think of when you hear ‘work’.

For most people it’s some of the following:

Hard / Difficult / Draining / Money / Disgust

If you’re associations to work are not all positive like the following:

Money / Love / Creation / Enjoyment / Opportunity

Then change it. You cannot fall in love with work if you have negative associations to it. Convince yourself that work is exciting, and soon it will be.

4. They sleep to recharge

Ambitious people sleep to recharge NOT to escape. They don’t take 3 hour naps. They don’t attempt to squirrel away their energy to save some for later.

They work. They enjoy said work. They recharge in order to get back to work.

If they didn’t need to sleep, they wouldn’t.

5. Ambitious people wake up early

Listen. You can convince yourself whatever the fuck you want. Maybe you think that waking up at 11am is better for ‘creativity’.

The truth: you can’t fuck with nature.

Nature has circadian rhythms. Align yourself with them.

Ambitious people wake up early because it allows them more time to create.

Waking up at 4:30am is absolutely life-changing.

6. Understand the cost, and they pay it

If you want to create at the highest levels there is a cost.

Staying in, going to sleep earlier, working long hours.

Ambitious people understand the cost of achieving their dreams and pay it. Willingly.

7. Enjoy competition

Ambitious people love to win. They compete with themselves and others. The intention behind the competition is for improvement.

Would Usain Bolt be the greatest runner without the Olympics?

8. Ambitious people surround themselves with ambitious people

“Keep away from those who try to belittle your ambitions. small people always do that, but the really great make you believe that you too can become great.” — Mark Twain

When you are surrounded by people also creating at the highest levels, you will too.

Inspire others to dream big and never belittle someone's ambitions. Cheer them on and by doing so you are letting the universe know “I want more of this in my life”.

9. Ambitious people don’t wait for the perfect moment

If you are waiting for the perfect moment, you already missed it.

Take action. Create your reality. Sometimes it’s better to be patient as a strategy but overall your dreams don’t wait you.

10. Ambitious people are confident

They are confident in their skills. They are confident in their attitude, skill and mindset.

They are confident in the fact that they can do anything they set their mind to.

Complete self-belief is crucial for the person that’s climbing up a mountain. An utter deep core understanding that they will not quit no matter what.

11. Ambitious people aren’t realistic

Why oh why have both feet planted on the ground when you can fly in the sky?

If you really want to create and have a major impact then what’s the point of being realistic? Is Elon Musk realistic when he said he wanted to occupy Mars? No.

Being realistic is boring.

12. Ambitious people have an impossible goal

“The great danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.” — Michelangelo

I love impossible goals. It’s one of the first things I do as a coach for my clients.

We create an impossible goal and determine the type of person you have to be in order to create it.

It’s not about achieving the goal as much as the actions you take if you are pursuing it. When you have an impossible goal i.e. land and inhabit Mars it changes the way you think and the actions you take.

If you want to know how ambitious feels like do this exercise in order:

  • Get clear on your impossible goal to accomplish in the next 25 years
  • Now if you absolutely HAD to achieve this goal in the next 90 days or else your right hand was cut off what would you do?

13. Ambitious people don’t let feelings bog them down

You will not hear an ambitious person say any variation of “I don’t feel like doing it.”

They understand that feelings will come and go, but the commitment stays strong.

14. Ambitious people don’t rest on their laurels

They are aligned with the force of forward motion.

They move forward at all costs. Yes they celebrate the victory and the wins but quickly step back on their path.

It’s the process. It’s that journey. It’s the road. It’s the hours of work that is the real enjoyment and not the outcome or result along the way.

15. They move and respond fast

They respond to that email, that message, that opportunity fast.

Quick decisions. Moving forward. Forward Motion. This is how the ambitious person operates.

They don’t fall prey to the Zeigarnik Effect: We remember better that which is unfinished or incomplete.

16. Curiosity as a way of life

Curiosity about problems, about business, about work, about creativity, about whatever they are passionate about.

It’s this curiosity that fuels their progress and mastery of the task at hand.

17. Ambitious people rarely talk about their impossible goal

Most people actually shoot themselves in the foot when they talk about their goals.

We receive a hit of dopamine when we mention our goals which actually dissuades us from pursuing it.

From now on: if you do announce your goal to someone, there is no enjoyment in it. It is ruthless and emotionless.

Attitude: This is happening. I’m creating this reality. No smile at all.

What ambitious expression can you add to your arsenal?

Take 12 seconds and write your top insight in the comments section, it’s truly appreciated.


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How To Never Be Shy Again (For Introverts)

How To Never Be Shy Again (For Introverts)

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Three years ago I was triggered.

Walking back to my car I was shocked at my reaction in class.

It was in one of those big auditorium classes with 300+ people. The professor was giving a brief description of the difference between extroverts and introverts.

“Extroverts are louder, more social and introverts are shy”.

A noise escaped my throat, which sounded like a combination of a “no!” and a gulp. Looking at the student next to me writing notes: “introvert = shy”.

I was furious. Triggered completely.

Being a very proud introvert this did not go over smoothly.

The Current Narrative

I coach a lot of high-performing introverted men and to this day I’m shocked at the picture of success they have accepted to be true.

Most introverts unconsciously have this idea of what it takes to become ‘successful’.

Success? Well, you must be the life of the party. Loud. Talking to everyone.

So, wanting to be this ideal version of ‘success’, the introvert tries to model this behavior.

The truth of the matter: no matter how great I am at writing with my left hand, I’m still a righty at heart.

Some introverts are shy, some extroverts are shy. Men are shy. Women are shy.

If you consider yourself to be shy, this article will eradicate it for the rest of your life.

7. Become an expert communicator

If you were an expert in swimming and you saw a pool, there would be no fear about diving in. Same with social skills.

You must work consistently on having the best social skills in this entire universe. The more confidence you have in your ability to talk to people the less shy you will feel.

8. New beliefs

Mindset is everything.

If you think you are likeable then people will like you.

If you see people as being friendly and welcoming, that will be your reality.

The way to install this into your brain is simple.

Every time you talk to someone new and it goes well, take 30 seconds to re-affirm the belief (just like I did with the free hugs sign).

Beliefs need proof. Every time someone was nice to you is just further proof for your case. People ARE awesome. People ARE friendly, mind, didn’t you see what just happened? People are so friendly.

9. You are value and you are growing in value

You are value now because you are a human being.

That by itself is enough. You are enough. There is nothing you have to do in order to be more enough.

You are 10000000% enough in this exact moment.

You understand this and consistently build your own value at the same time. You workout, develop social skills, and focus on contributing and making an impact.

10. Focus outward

Shy people constantly focus all their attention on themselves. It’s very selfish and it propels you further and further down the hole of self-consciousness.

Keep all your attention on the person in front of you. Focus intently on their facial expressions and features. Focus on the appreciation you have for this person in front of you.

You choose what you focus on. Choose to focus on something outside of yourself and you will quickly fizzle all shyness from your system.

11. Mental movies and rehearsals

Take time to visualize you interacting with other people. How your ideal self would communicate with others. Visualize people enjoying your company, liking you as a person and being friendly.

This is your mental movie, keep this image fresh in your mind everyday.

The next step is to practice (rehearse) the events. Find a quiet place in your room or with friends and act like that person you visualized.

It might sound weird but talk to the mirror as if you were your ideal self. That charismatic, confident person that’s already inside of you.

12. Join The Bold Wolves Project

This program is the indoctrination to our community for introverted men.

Wolves is our introvert archetype.

Boldness is how we choose to live our life.

It’s crucial to find an empowering community of people that are creators at the highest level. It’s a lot harder to be shy when you are around fully self-expressive people.

Thank you for reading.

Daniel


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39 Ways To Be The Highest Status Person In The Room

41 Ways To Be The Highest Status Person In The Room


1. Workout, sculpt your body to perfection.

This is more than looks. The type of person that spends hours at a discipline. The type of person that doesn’t give into impulses. The type of person that can make a commitment AND keep it.

These are traits of the high status man.This type of person LOVES going to the gym. He is determined and willing to put in the work.

The added benefit of going to the gym is raising your testosterone, becoming happier, sleeping better and increased creativity.

2. Love Yourself

The high status person has an aura of self love that permeates through every single movement. Every spoken word or idea.

It’s a choice to love all of you (including that part you hate). No child has ever looked in the mirror and said “I wish I didn’t have freckles!”.

Love yourself. Love your accent. Love your freckles. Love every part about you, because it’s more useful than hating yourself.

Read “Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It” by Kamal Ravikant for more.

3. Raise testosterone and lower cortisol

This is an absolute necessity for men.It’s also an extremely easy fix.

Increased testosterone will have immediate effects on your thoughts.

Better thoughts = better feelings = better actions = better character = better destiny. Raising testosterone literally changes your life.

You lower cortisol because it is the stress hormone. Thus making you more calm, more at ease and increase happiness.

4. Have incredible self-talk

Our mind is simple. It attempts to bring us closer to pleasure and avoid pain.

If your mind thinks about walking into a meeting and the mental pictures you are experiencing are telling you that people are judging you and hating you…rest assured you will be in for a tough time.

High status people have incredible talk in between their ears that allows them to find pleasure in what low status people find painful.

5. Body language

There are experts out there that are much better at talking about this then me. But in terms of principles there are two you must follow:

  • Be open. It’s extremely simple. Just don’t be closed (arms, legs etc).
  • Take up space. High status people are not afraid to take up space and don’t try to act invisible.

6. Be around high status people

If you are around a bunch of low-status people it’s easier to fall into their reality if you aren’t mindful.

If you are stuck with a certain group, then make sure to watch or talk to a friend that's high status or a video of someone you admire.

7. Posture

Chest forward, shoulders back, chin up. Posture changes your thoughts which affect your feelings. It makes you feel immensely more confident.

Posture is not something you turn on and off. If you are reading this right now sitting down….How is your posture?

If it’s absolutely terrible. I recommend you go to the Egoscue clinic. If it’s mediocre read an article about it here.

8. Be actually happy

A great friend of mine said that happiness is smiling to yourself when you are alone in the elevator.

It’s a strong feeling of content. It’s not high energy.

There is a distinction between being happy and joyful.

Joy = happy + excitement.

Happiness is just a deep contentment. You are happy with life and you take conscious steps every day to keep you in this state.

(Gratitude, working out, self-talk, environment).

9. Walk slowly

What's the rush? Slow the fuck down. When you walk slowly you start noticing your surroundings.

You become more mindful.

The high status person is not in a rush to do anything.

If you must walk faster be quick but don’t hurry. Each step is mindful as you kiss your feet against the floor.

10. Don’t be easily impressed

Are you looking at the Mona Lisa? No? Okay, then.

Stop responding to the mundane as if you just heard the news that Pluto became a planet again.

11. Demand attention when you talk

When conversing with another human, make sure your words are landing on engaged ears.

In Russian there is a saying that translated means “do you hear me or are you just listening to me?”.

Pause until you have their full attention. If they are distracted don’t continue the conversation.

12. Think big thoughts

Next time you are waiting, take this opportunity to think BIG THOUGHTS. The high status person is bigger than their problems.

Think about billion dollar problems. Think about your mission in life. Big thoughts fill your head. Contemplate BIG ideas. There is no time to be grounded in reality.

13. Touch people

Touch a shoulder, an elbow, give a hug, shake a hand.

There are no barriers to touching people. Make sure to use social awareness and absolutely no groping. It’s all in the flow of the conversation.

14. High status eye contact

Eyes are filled with warmth and tinged with a sense of aliveness.

When you break eye contact never look down.

The key to high status eye contact is in the transition. Once you lock eyes with someone never dart to the next target. Hold for three, two, one and very slowly look left or right.

15. Do less , be more.

Say a sentence without speaking. Move without moving. Ask without asking.

Follow the law of least effort. What can you communicate in a sentence that used to take a paragraph?

Do less, be more.

16. Have a generous spirit, everyone gets love

Pick up the bill. Pour the drinks. Invite people into conversations.

It’s a generous spirit that surrounds everything you do. Living like this is an expression of having abundance in your life.

17. Boundaries

While having this generous spirit and attitude you have clear boundaries.

You say things like “don’t do that” or “don’t behave like that.”

You have a generous spirit but do not allow people going over your boundaries.

The high status man is not afraid to assert himself against challengers to the throne.

18. Laugh loudly

The high status man doesn’t hold back at all.

Never again hold back your laugh, your smile. Show up fully (that means all of you). If he feels sad, he says it. If he’s happy he says. The high status man is genuine.

19. Shake hands correctly

Read this: A Manly Handshake: An Illustrated Guide

This is part of making a great first impression. Don’t mess this up. It’s simple but not always easy.

20. Don’t go out of your way to befriend high status people

The high status person doesn’t randomly befriend other high status people. If he must, he will.

Ask for introductions. Let it happen naturally and organically. You can have a target but you don’t go out of your way to make a connection. Ask for an introduction. Find commonalities and understand that it won’t happen overnight.

21. Entitled Attitude

The high status person is entitled. There of course is healthy and not healthy levels to this.

Healthy entitlement is the sense that you have the right to want things, even if you might not get them. Or you can be like Conor McGregor’s level of entitlement: Watch this from 3:12 onward.

22. Master how to have great first impressions

Master the craft of having great first impressions. The intention would be that within seconds of meeting you this person is in awe.

Learning to shake someone's hand, warm eye contact, remembering their name and the energetic connection behind it are all crucial to master this.

23. Dress well, utilize the halo effect

Look good you feel good. Get out of your comfort zone. Never wear cargo shorts again. Wear a dress shirt, a tie, nice pants and ABSOLUTELY wear great shoes.

24. Placement

Where are you standing? If the opportunity presents itself the high status man always chooses the most comfortable seat. Choose to have your back against a wall so no-one could be behind you.

25. Walk in and stop.

Walk into the nightclub, the meeting room, the coffee shop and stop for three seconds. Look around, smell the air and then continue on your path. SHOCKING how doing this makes you 668% more charismatic and magnetic.

26. It’s all good

Your mindset is completely content. It’s all good. That’s good. That’s good. Oh, that? that’s also good. Unfailing coolness, it’s all good even if it's bad it’s good. “It’ll be alright” type of attitude. A high status person is bigger than their problems.

27. Have an impossible mission

Have an impossible mission for yourself that you are creating. It takes a great man to decide to occupy Mars. Choosing an impossible goal like stopping world hunger. This elevates your inner world of status to the infinite degree.

28. Speak for the group and to the group

High status people are leaders. Not followers. As a leader you take charge of the group, you speak to the group lead in the direction that’s best for everyone.

29. Have impeccable social skills

You have an incredible external awareness. You understand what’s happening underneath the surface. You understand group dynamics. You feel into the mood of the group as a leader. You know when to be silent. You know when and how to connect deeply.

Communication is your most valuable skill that CAN and MUST be developed.

30. Don’t talk with an upward pitch

You don’t finish your sentences with an upward intonation. This is an expression of people pleasing behavior. You end your statements and questions the same way they were started.

There is not an ounce of people pleasing or seeking for agreement when you communicate as a high status man.

31. Make statements rather than questions.

How are you? vs. Tell me about your day.

What made you do that? vs. Im curious what drove you to do that.

Simple switch that changes the whole dynamics of a conversation.

32. Don’t gossip

Ray Dalio banned gossip in his offices. High status people ban it from their entire life. It makes you look terrible. The high status person is gossiped about, not the gossiper. Plus, remember that you have more important things to talk about like that mission from #27.

33. Don’t complain

The high status man is a creator. He isn’t complaining about how the world is. There is absolutely no reason to complain. The high status man either accepts reality or works to change it.

Stop talking about your emotional injuries “you won’t believe what happen to me today” yes I will, stop your victim shit immediately.

34. Warmth

Warmth in your eye contact. Your voice. Your body language.

It disarms people immediately. Warmth creates connection and lowers the wall that are around people's ability to connect.

35. Have an air of effortlessness

This can only TRULY be achieved if you have suffered, you have put in the fucking work in private to shine in public. You have spent hours perfecting your skills in life and the social world. Then you can truly be effortless and natural and spontaneous.

36. Directness

Yes.

No.

If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no for now. The high status isn’t ‘floaty’ he is direct and decisive. This is reflected in conversation, movement and presence.

37. Be a master seducer

The world is your playground. You walk into a room and understand that it’s all a game. This is your playful philosophy on life.

You understand the fundamental aspect of humans. They are bored. People are bored. People are begging to be seduced, to be led astray and come alive. The high status person gives them this gift.

PS. The power from a master seducer comes from his ability to BE seduced. Seduced by great food, art, beauty and romance. Be sensitive to pleasure (this puts you in a positive mood no matter what is happening).

38. You don’t need anyones approval.

The high status doesn't do anything for approval. He realizes it’s not his responsibility that people are comfortable in his presence. He doesn’t suppress his energy or spirit for anyone.

The paradox of this, is that people actually like him because he is NOT a people pleaser.

39. Every day raise your status

You work on yourself every single day. Health, wealth, relationships, spirit and all the buckets that matter to you.

Every day you work on your inner prestige so you truly are the highest status person in the universe for YOURSELF.

I’m a Baller.

I'm a Baller.

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Seriously, I look at myself in the mirror and realize that I’m as baller as they come.

I walk like a baller, I talk like a baller and you best believe that I am a baller. 

Definition of Baller: For me, it means powerful, sexy and playful. This is one aspect of my personality.

I think how to make my life as magnificent and glorious as possible. I dream big. I inspire others to think louder.

The mission I’m on is to inspire 1 million people to step into their own version of being a baller. To help others sing their song as loudly as possible.

Before we continue, what are you thinking when I say that?

Are you indifferent? Are you confused? Are you triggered? Are you cheering me on?

Being a baller means different things to different people. Some of you might think of Dwayne Johnson from the HBO show ballers. Some people might think about ‘poppin bottles’ at the club. 

All of you will have some type of interpretation.

Let me take you back to when I was 18 years old.

I was blessed to be working in one of the most esteemed hotels in Miami Beach. Five star hotel that was filled with millionaires, billionaires, very successful entrepreneurs and overall powerful people.

For the next three years I worked in different hotels (all luxury) and was able to witness first hand the different type of ballers.

I was working in the recreation department (outside) and subject to being tipped by people constantly.

Calling servers, setting up cabanas, working in the pool and beach etc etc.

I received thousands of dollars in tips. Anywhere from $1 to a $1500 check (tell that story another time).

I noticed the different types of ballers.
 
I noticed that people that tip 50s and 100s rarely hide the bills. They never fold it and hand it out flat.

I noticed that some people fold dollar bills into 100 little squares so it’s smaller then a penny.
 
I notice some people walked fast, some walked slowly.

I could almost immediately tell everything about the person from how they tipped.

Day after day I would study these people. Where their attention went. Who was the highest status person in the group. How millionaires talked to other millionaires.

I was fascinated with all the levels of ballers.

Unconsciously I wanted to become these men. One of my main motivating factors to creating millions of dollars in wealth is to be able to tip the way these people tipped me.

Every now and then I would see a 100% fully fledged gorilla of a baller.

The baller that was fully himself, not caring at all what people thought of him.

I would admire this guy, and study him thoroughly. 

Now, fast forward many moons forward.

Last summer I was being coached by one of the most ‘spiritual’ people I’ve ever met. My roommate Chris. Back when I lived in Boulder, Colorado.

The Baller Awakes

We got clear on what I wanted to create in my life.

Then we started talking about playing the ‘be yourself game’.

Definition of the ‘be yourself game’: In order to win the game, you have to be your most natural, real version of yourself.

Like I said, I was working in hotels and had my career mapped out in front of me. I was 21 years old and leading a group of 50 people (most older than me).

If I stayed put, continued hustling and committed. More money, more opportunities would flock to me.

I didn’t choose this lifestyle. I chose to create a blog. I chose to start my coaching practice. I chose the path less traveled.

The paradox of this path, is that in order to reach the success I wanted to created…

I had to be myself.

I must be authentic, real, or else why would anyone read the words I’m writing?

Why would anyone care about more information?

After talking to him about being myself and what that looks like I started describing the story of me working at hotels when I was younger.

How I loved ballers and admired them.

Being the spiritual guru that he is, he immediately felt the shift in his body and called it out of me.

“You are a baller!”

I looked at him. Confused, slightly startled as the insight landed.

Have you ever had such a powerful insight that you can’t stop laughing?

I literally laughed for the next 3 minutes, not knowing why.

I realized something was changing on a deep, core level.

When I finally calmed down the giggles it hit me immediately. 

I had not given myself permission to express this major part of my personality. I was and always will be a baller and I wasn’t allowing myself to be it fully.

I was showing up at 60% of my baller and it wasn’t doing jack shit.

It was at this moment. 

11,000 feet up in the mountains of Boulder that I decided to win the ‘be yourself game’ completely.

I decided to be 100% myself. I decided to commit to this baller side for the rest of my life.

Question for you, dear reader.

What’s your version of baller?

What’s that part of you that you are afraid to fully express?

That creative part. That loving part. That spiritual part.

That confident, courageous, that incredible magnificent glorious expression that sits doormat.

Give yourself permission.

Do not hold back any longer.

Be your own baller.


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Be silent. Your actions speak loud enough.

Be Silent. Your Actions Speak Loud Enough

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Stop talking. Stop wishing. Stop Dreaming. Stop looking for the next hack, the next secret tip.

If someone where to check your bank account for the last three months without knowing anything about you, what would they think about you?

If someone were to follow you around the entire day, how would they describe you as a person?

Is there a discrepancy between what you say and what you do?

You say you are interested in working out and losing weight?

But…your actions say otherwise.

You say you are interested in becoming wealthy beyond your wildest imaginations!

But…you haven’t put away any savings nor invested any money.

You say you are interested in changing your personality, becoming social and charismatic?

But…you don’t talk to strangers, you don’t socialize, you don’t connect.

Climb a mountain and don’t tell a soul.

It’s time to wake up from this illusion that most of us live in.

Create a 30-day challenge for any area of your life that you want to improve. Don’t tell a single person of what you are doing. Prove it to yourself that you are committed. Prove it to the universe that you are willing to put in the work.

Commit to waking up at 5:00am every day.

Commit to not eating junk food for a month.

Commit to saying hello to three strangers every day.

Commit to putting 10% of your income in your savings.

Commit to taking cold showers every single day.

Commit to doing 20 pushups/squats every single day.

Commit to meditating every day.

Don’t tell anyone of this challenge. It’s between you and you.

Your mind will do what you tell it to do.

If you want to break a sweat every day for 30 days, then tell your mind that.

Literally tell yourself:

“I want to break a sweat everyday for the next 30 days” “I choose to break a sweat everyday for the next 30 days, I choose to feel excited and happy every workout I do”. “I love working out, I love improving myself, I love taking action when I go after my goals”.

Your mind wants you to succeed, and make life easier for you.

Boost your self talk, make your new commitment enjoyable, tell yourself that you love it, that it excites you, that it makes you happy, that it fills you with joy.

Then stop talking and do it.

Your actions will show if you really want change, or if you just say you do.

And remember, be silent. Your actions will speak loud enough.


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What Red Wine Can Teach You About Making A Difference

What Red Wine Can Teach You About Making A Difference

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Red Wine’s Ancient Agriculture Secret Revealed

Welcome to another sweet with just a hint of sour edition of the mental game secrets needed to take the challenge called life head on.

Just yesterday…

During my ‘wisdom’ block of my day (talk more about this in future posts)…

I read the most fascinating topic about how grapes turn into wine…

It takes the one grape…

Scientists have found out, it only takes just one grape…

One overly confident purple oval looking ball…

One small speck in a large farm that can last acres…

One troublemaker amongst the gang…

One lone wolf trying to chart his own path through life…

One little grape that decided it’s time...

It’s time…

Let me tell you a little back-story about this one purple organic (seedless) grape that decided to make a difference.

On every wine vineyard there are acres of land dedicated to the planting and harvesting of grapes to make all sorts of wine to be sold away.

While each place has their own traditions, techniques and distilling processes that make it unique they all have one similarity.

Ready for this value?

You sure?

You definitely look ready…

Bold Wolves QTLB (quote to live by #18):

“In a vineyard, one grape will begin to ripen and in so doing will send out a vibration, an enzyme, a fragrance, or an energy field of some kind that is picked up by the other grapes. This one grape signals the other grapes that it is time to change, to ripen.” – Will Bowen ‘A Complaint Free World’

Thanks Will.

Awesome story and such a powerful lesson for us to keep in mind…

Making a difference…

I promise you this…

If you asked that one grape when it began to ripen what difference it expected to make in this world it would look at you crazily.

However…

This one grape that ripened created an entire field of grapes ready to be harvested.

WTF DOES THIS MEAN DANIEL?

It means that as you continue to invest in yourself, get better every single day, take massive action towards your vision you signal to everyone around you and the universe that it is time for a change.

Without even trying, you will raise the consciousness of those around you.” – Will Bowen

Remember this story of the seedless grape as you create your vision into reality.

You cannot track your progression day by day and expect instantaneous results…

You will not be able to tell the difference your making in someone’s life…

Just continue to trust yourself and connect your moment-to-moment actions with  what the best version of yourself would do.

The Game of Perspectives

The Game of Perspectives

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Life is...

Ask ten people to free associate what comes up and you will have a complete range of answers.

Life is hard. Life is easy. Life is stressful. Life is difficult. Life is fun. Life is beautiful. Life is sad. Life is a struggle. Life is filled with opportunities.

Well, then. Who is correct?

Maybe it’s all of the above or maybe they are all wrong?

The nature of our mind ends up filling in the blanks then convincing us that it’s a 100% concrete reality.

Perhaps, it is.

Life is hard for me! So it therefore must be hard for everyone else. 

Hard truth:

Here is something we know for sure: this physical body of ours will die eventually.

Let’s guesstimate that it will happen in 60+ years.

60 years. 21,900 days. 525,600 hours. 31,536,000 minutes.

Because of numerous factors you currently have a dominant perspective on how life is.

The funny thing about life is that it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe that life is , lets say, hard? Then you will experience life as hard. If you say, perhaps life is a game? Then you will experience life as a game.

There is no correct answer to how to view life.

It’s up to us as individuals to crack open our perspective vault and view life in the perspective that is serving us the most.

The game of perspectives...

Consciously choosing the perspective that serves you the most.

Is life happening for your benefit or against you?

It’s a choice of how you view the world.

Start building and growing your perspective vault. Constantly place deposits into it as if it’s a bank.

View life from the perspective as a kid, as a champion, as a king, as a master seducer, as a leader, as the person you admire most does.

Find the perspective that serves you the most and start playing that game.

I ask you again...

Life is...


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